It shouldn' hurt, but it does.

by **Stone Fox** » Tue Jan 23, 2007 9:46 am

I found out last night that my so called 'best friend' has been sleeping with my ex.

It's after I finished with her, so technically it's none of my business but it's still upsetting! It doesn't make any sense.

What's even wierder is that she's still begging me to take her back. Fat fleshing chance of that now!

**Sponsor**

by **drowningbitbybit** » Tue Jan 23, 2007 9:59 am

Oooh, out of order :evil:

Morally, the ex has done nothing wrong - she owes you nothing. But the best friend, that's betrayal worthy of a slow painful death :ninja:

Friends ex's - off limits.

by **el_timmo** » Tue Jan 23, 2007 11:18 am

I guess it;ss different for different people. I found out a good friend of mine was with my ex.... I was pissed off, but only because I found out from someone else. I was more disappointed that I had to find out from someone else. Soon forgot about it though... They seemed happier than she and I ever were!

by **^*^BATMAN^*^** » Tue Jan 23, 2007 11:26 am

I definatly say that best friend with an ex is ok.....THOUGH, the right thing to do if you are that friend, is to either ask, or inform that something is/might be happening.

Not saying anything, and letting you find out from a third party source, is not good.

by **sal** » Tue Jan 23, 2007 11:50 am

I'm not sure that I'm of a particular opinion either way, I guess it's gotta depend on the circumstances, especially if, as Timmo says, you can see that they are happier together than you were. And again it'd be different if it's just "meaningless" sex. But letting you find out from someone else is definitely harsh!

Don't let it get you down too much Fox! x

by **Sar** » Tue Jan 23, 2007 12:09 pm

Oooh that always does hurt - even though it shouldnt.

i think friends ex's are off limits - unless its something special or was years ago.

If she's begging for you back while with him then you are probably best off out of there -wish them well and go on your merry way

ps - your avatar looks so sad *big hug*

by **drowningbitbybit** » Tue Jan 23, 2007 12:21 pm

Sar wrote:If she's begging for you back while with him then you are probably best off out of there -wish them well and go on your merry way

No, obviously the thing to do is sh@g her one last time, let him find out about it, then get ouf ot there :twisted:

by **libby** » Tue Jan 23, 2007 12:34 pm

DBBB!!!!

I'm shocked! :shock:

I've been feeling a bit down about he who shall not be named. Twat.

I hate relationships booooooooooo.

by **drowningbitbybit** » Tue Jan 23, 2007 1:05 pm

Libby wrote:DBBB!!!!

I'm shocked!

Mrs. DBBB always tells me that we can never split up because she's horrified by my sense of what is acceptable when it comes to revenge :twisted:

by **rich r** » Tue Jan 23, 2007 3:31 pm

Before I weigh in on this subject, I need some critical information.

Is she hot?

by **dougirwin13** » Tue Jan 23, 2007 9:00 pm

Anti-relationship thread.

I better shut up.

Better not mention the awesome surf we had the other day.

And the fleshing FANTASTIC evening that followed.

-doug

by **libby** » Tue Jan 23, 2007 9:08 pm

No Doug its good.

You give me hope that not all men are boys.

by **Milo** » Tue Jan 23, 2007 9:30 pm

Now`t wrong with swinging :wink:

by **northswell** » Tue Jan 23, 2007 10:09 pm

I can't comment as i was once an evil sinner. Used to leave a girlfriends place, get of a few stops later and see her best mate, oops, also a long time ago.
Then there was the best mate and sister incident that happened after a bottle of JD, oops again.

by **Stone Fox** » Wed Jan 24, 2007 12:07 am

He did ask permission and I said no.

She had a fling with him for a couple of days then dumped him because she thought I wanted her back.

I've spent the last 12 horse drunk. And to ad insult to injuryu I've started smoking again.

by **sal** » Wed Jan 24, 2007 8:28 am

Sad Fox wrote: I've started smoking again.

Noooooooooooooooo! You were doing so well Foxie, don't let this spoil it for you mate xxxxxx

by **Stone Fox** » Wed Jan 24, 2007 12:28 pm

rich r wrote:Is she hot?

I guess it hurts because I still like her.

I was supposed to be taking her swimming yesterday.

Oh well, now I have a hangover and I feel like I've sandblasted my lungs maybe I should go back to quitting smoking.

I spoke to her last night (she was one ringing me all day) and she threatened to kill herself if I didn't take her back, and I thought that I was being immature about this?!!?

by **Stone Fox** » Wed Jan 24, 2007 12:50 pm

Libby wrote:I've been feeling a bit down about he who shall not be named. Twat.I hate relationships booooooooooo.

Sorry to hear about that.

I would say, "at least I'm not the only one" but that would somehow imply I glad you're miserable as well and I'm not.

Hope you get over him soon.

And I just want to say a really big thankyou to everyone for being so friendly and supportive, it's wierd that it's easier (and probably more theraputic) to talk to people I have never met than my friends IRL.

Thanks.

by **libby** » Wed Jan 24, 2007 12:54 pm

So very true, im not sure what i would have done without the SW crew in the last few months! Probably been alot more depressed thats for sure!

by **rich r** » Wed Jan 24, 2007 3:51 pm

Well, I'd blame her for not being more discrete more than your friend.

She looks and sounds like trouble. Never take someone back on a threat.

But you do have to tell them that they can't pin anything on you. I had a ex or two that were bit off and post-breakups were somewhat weird.

You just have to move on. You'll find someone else who's better for you. And hotter. Trust me.

It shouldn' hurt, but it does.

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